Awhile ago I submitted this site here for their “review”. They’re not the blog experts of the world but I thought it’d be good for a laugh and to see what other people who don’t know me personally or this blog thought.
The review is here. Basically what it says is that I am boring! Or more so that this blog is boring. Which yes I admit it is. I don’t share half the stuff that goes on in my head or that has happened in my life. Why? Because a few more people in my real life are reading this and that doesn’t make me too comfortable.
At work the other day a co worker came up to me and told me she heard someone talking about me and that I should be careful. Firstly before I got married I was the topic of a lot of gossip at work. Why? Mostly because people at my work have nothing better to do. When you take a young, single, fairly pretty girl like me who hangs around mostly with guys, people like to do a lot of speculating. At first it bothered me then I really didn’t care so much.
So the latest gossip now at work, coming from a woman who’s at least SIXTY, is that I’m unhappy in my marriage and that I don’t wear my wedding ring. She got it from a “reliable” source . Wonder who that source is? And yes there is truth to this gossip. But what business is it of hers to comment on it. Is she a friend of mine? No. But people like to talk. Which makes me wonder. Only a very few of my friends know about the problems. So did she hear it from someone who has found this place? Or are my friends talking about me? Does it really matter? No.
So I’ve been thinking about changing sites again. To a place where I can write what I really feel.
Does anyone know if I change the url of this blog if people were to type in the old url would it redirect them to the new place??
Your workplace is very toxic, you know that, I think. You could ask her directly what she knows, or you could ignore it. It’s frustrating working with children, isn’t it!
By: Naomi on April 18, 2009
at 11:33 am
Why not change blogs and just tell us, the people who read and comment? I sure wouldn’t want people from work (if I worked) reading my blog, nor would I want neighbours etc. Pls don’t move without tell me!
PS-how funny that review is! Of course mommy blogs are boring to people who aren’t mommies themselves…or at least parents.
By: porter on April 18, 2009
at 2:45 pm
People, get a life. And maybe pat Sam on the back once in awhile and say ‘This marriage stuff is HARD, isn’t it?’ Because it is. And having the guts to put that out in front of us is heroic, not boring.
By: daysgoby on April 18, 2009
at 6:57 pm
Oh fer f’s sakes I DO know your name, HONEST!
By: daysgoby on April 18, 2009
at 6:57 pm
I loved the review. They weren’t nearly as unkind as they said they’d be.
As for changing the address, I’d do it if I were you. Can’t tell you how though. I hate that my topics have to be tailored to the fact that my parents read, and I’d love to go back to being anonymous. I’d just do it smarter if I were to do it again.
By: Mac and Cheese on April 18, 2009
at 6:59 pm
I know how you feel about needing a place to write how you really feel. I wish my parents didn’t read my blog – I gave them the url when I first started blogging, not realizing what I was doing! Please let me know if you do change sites (FB me!)
By: Some kind of Wondermom on April 18, 2009
at 8:24 pm
It all depends on how you change the address. If you want to just port over this blog to a new address, and wordpress lets you do that, they might have an option for that(?)
In any case, I hope you do let me know if you do move! I have a friends-only blog actually, on livejournal, that I’ve had for years and years. I’d be happy to add you to that if you have a livejournal account — though I do write an awful lot and most of it probably is very boring
Still, I like to record a lot of details.
By: 1001petals on April 19, 2009
at 6:34 pm
I feel for you.
This “source” was probably sleeping at her desk, heard people talking, listened, and in order to avoid dying from boredom, wanted to spread some “news”. It’s terrible.
As for the new blog, I TOTALLY encourage it! Mine is private to anyone who wants the URL. It is unsearchable! I like it that way. I can see who was there and if someone undesirable comes by, ie/ psychos from the former office, I can block their URL’s. I feel WAY better. I posted that I was moving and said if people want to follow they can email me.
Done.
Hope it works out…
By: urbandaddy on April 19, 2009
at 7:23 pm
No, it will not automatically direct people to your new blog, if you don’t post a link. I’ve been there, done that, myself.
Just, create a new blog, and have people here send you your e-mails and you can redirect them. Good luck with that.
By: love_bites on April 21, 2009
at 5:45 am
gah. those reliable sources.
I am not sure how you would go about changing it other than just opening a new space.
Anyhow. Our rings have been off for a very long time. And big changes are afoot.
anyhow. change spaces. write what you want.
By: crazymumma on April 21, 2009
at 9:06 am
Anyway, open a new space. Call it something different, so that it doesn’t come up in search engines. Start fresh with a blank page. I think you’ll like it better when you can be yourself more.
By: love_bites on April 21, 2009
at 1:54 pm
But, I really like your template.
By: love_bites on April 21, 2009
at 1:54 pm
At least they gave you a fluffy chick, nothing wrong with that.
If you change locations, you must let me know!
By: carol on April 21, 2009
at 6:51 pm
Lots of people that I know via-work know about my blog and I definitely sensor myself when it comes to anything really private, but I think being honest and open is what a blog is all about-at least for me.
as you know, I also write about the ups & downs of a marriage, but that’s my reality (and I suspect most couples with young children)
Personally knowing that other couples are experiencing the same challenges makes me feel like we are not alone.
But if co-workers are making nasty comments I can understand why you would want more anonymity.
hey, you should write a few bogus posts about something really outrageous and see how fast it spreads around the office…
But if you do move be sure to let me know where you move to.
By: petitegourmand on April 23, 2009
at 9:03 am
First of all, the fact that you sent your blog to a total stranger whose m.o. is to be funny/mean, is hilarious and brave. Good on you – I could never do it.
Second of all, the fact that she came back w/some advice and to comment – she’s good people.
So are you. Go get a new space, and write what’s on your mind.
By: kgirl on April 23, 2009
at 12:12 pm
I learned a long time ago the people who do the gossiping are not worth my time. They are the pariah of socializing. They fuck everthing up and remind me of little trolls with warts and yellow toe nails. well that is the aura i see on them anyway.
I found your blog from that site you sent it to for critique. I will follow you and see if your boring for myself. I think your brave for adding your blog to there list of possible victims. Im still pondering the idea.
By: Hope on May 31, 2009
at 12:47 am
Late to the party, but if you really want to blog with no connection here (which is what I did a couple of years ago), I would:
1. Write a brief post announcing that you’re done here (so the top post and the first thing people see is that you’re gone). Optional: offer to send the new link to commenters or emailers who ask for it. (We did this, but only for people we “knew”.)
2. Choose a new blog title and pseudonym (including new url and new email address for it).
3. Put up a post or two at the new place.
4. Email everyone the new link from the new email, identifying yourself in the email only as being who you are here.
That’s what we did, and no one has ever connected us (my wife did the same thing).
By: SciFi Dad on June 1, 2009
at 11:51 am